BEFORE YOU GATHER
• Familiarize yourself with this Group Discussion Guide.
• If you missed it, CLICK HERE to watch the weekend sermon.
• Read Psalm 127:3-4, Proverbs 3:5-6, and Proverbs 22:6.
• CLICK HERE to watch a powerful explanation of what the biblical book of Proverbs is like.
• Sit in prayerful silence with God for a while, and ask the Holy Spirit if there is anything that he wants you to share during your group’s time together.
RESOURCES FOR A PERSONAL RESPONSE
Every week, we’ll suggest some resources that can help you and others pursue a life of wholeness, transparency, recovery, and healing.
• LEARN BY READING: Read “Parenting Beyond Your Capacity” by Reggie Joiner & Carey Niewhof, or “The Power of a Praying Parent” by Stormie O’Martian
• LEARN BY SEEING: Watch Andy & Sandra Stanley teach about the
“Stages of Parenting” in the Future Family series. CLICK HERE TO VIEW.
OTHER NEXT STEPS:
- Read or listen to the book of Proverbs to find parenting-related
nuggets of wisdom.
- CLICK HERE to check out the list of “Parent Resources” in the Next
Steps section of our website. (Scroll down on our main page to find it.)
- Put your child in a Community Group at Cornerstone so that they can
connect in a more familiar way with other Christ-following children,
families and mentors on a regular basis.
- Reach out to your Campus Pastor, your Students Pastor, or your child’s CF Kids Classroom Leader and ask for prayer support, or a coffee/phone meet-up.
- CLICK HERE to request prayer support from the Prayer Team at church.
Opening Prayer: (1-5 minutes)
In light of what God is saying through this week’s message, here are some suggestions of how your group can invite God into your time together.
- God, will you show us the children in our lives with whom you have given us influence?
- God, will you help us to identify the gifts that our parents gave us through their parenting? How can we experience healing from the areas of pain & vulnerability that may have come from our relationship with our parents?
- God, how can we support parents of kids with special needs, special gifts, and special circumstances?
Quick Connection: (5 minutes)
What is one memory you have of your parents “parenting” you – is there something you needed correction in? What traditions and celebrations mattered the most to you? You also have the option to say “Pass.”
Large Group Discussion: (30 minutes)
The main scriptures from this weekend’s message came from Psalm 127:3-4, Proverbs 3:5-6, and Proverbs 22:6. If everyone has a Bible, let's go there together.
• Psalm 127:3-4 gives us the imagery of children being like arrows that we point a particular way and then let loose. And the book of Proverbs is written in the form of a long letter from a wise father to his son. It is clear that this father has high hopes for his child. We, too, have hopes and dreams for our daughters and sons and the children in our communities. What one or two words best describe your hopes and dreams for your children and/or the generations coming after you?
• Philippians 4:11 speaks about the possibility of learning how to be content and at peace no matter what our circumstances may be. And last week, in Proverbs 11:24, we learned that giving freely is the pathway to a much more fulfilling life. What are some practical ways you can cultivate a heart of contentment and generosity in your own life? And how can you invite your kids to participate in this as well?
• To be “holy” means to be set apart for God and devoted to following His lead in our lives. If “holiness is more important than happiness”, as Pastor Steve stated, and as the Bible suggests over and over, and if we as parents are the leaders in our families and the God-ordained barriers in our kids’ journeys, what boundaries can we set to help our kids steer clear of so many of the traps that are so prevalent in our society? How can we teach our kids how to find happiness in holy, right, God-honoring living?
• As Pastor Steve reminded us this weekend, “a Proverbs parent trades
smart for wise.” In real life, it is more important that we know how to not
just memorize facts, but apply Godly wisdom to whatever circumstances we find ourselves in. What can you do to gain more of God’s wisdom in your life? How can you model or share this habit of wisdom-gaining with the children in your home or community?
• In Proverbs 3:5-6, we see that TRUSTING GOD + SUBMITTING TO HIM = STRAIGHT PATHS. This is one of those proverbs that is as much for the parent as it is for the child — and it is “caught” more than taught. Have you ever seen this to be true in your own life? How can you speak to your own anxious heart and help it trust God more today?
• Proverbs 22:6 is not a guarantee or promise that your child will “turn out right if you do your job well.” Rather, in this proverb, the writer is teaching us how important it is to be (1) intentional, (2) consistent, and (3) aware of each of our children’s unique “bend.” Was there a person in your life who truly “got you?” Is there a child in your life you could be that person to? How can you help train that child to go in a way that's according to their God-given "bend"?
CLOSING PRAYER (5-15 minutes):
In light of what God is saying through this week’s message, here are some suggestions of what your group could talk about with God in prayer.
- For guidance from the Spirit on modeling Proverbs.
- For guidance from the Spirit during all the interactions you have with kids – your own or someone else’s.
- For sensitivity from the Spirit to encourage parents to continue the hard work of crafting and molding and developing the unique individuals God handpicked for them to raise.
- For endurance – raising kids requires playing “the long game” and for vision for what each child needs.